Biblical Future Husband

Biblically, my future husband should be a Christian, he should be loving, and should be the leader in the home.
The Bible makes it clear that we, as Christians, are not to marry unbelievers. 2 Corinthians 6:14 says, “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” We are not to even partner with them, much less marry them. My future husband must not only be a Christian by name but his actions and words must underline what he claims to be. He must fervently seek to understand and know God more so that he may, in turn, point me to truth. His love for God should come first in everything, even before me, but not to the point where he neglects his God-given duty to love and lead me.
The role of the husband is to love their wives. Ephesians 5:28 says, “Husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself.” But this kind of love must not start until after marriage. Society today encourages this sacred love to those not married and it has ruined our culture. Ephesians 5:3 says, “For this reason a man shall leave his Father and Mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” The command is to leave (and be married) and then cleave, not the opposite. Before marriage, there should be boundaries set in order to preserve each others purity before marriage. The relationship before marriage should be above reproach so that other may not questions what we do. We must wait until our wedding day to fully give our hearts up to one another, not before. But once we are married, it is the duty of the husband to love his wife. Ephesians 5:25 says, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” His love should be self-sacrificing and a picture of what Christ’s love for the church looks like.
Finally, the husband must be the leader of the home. He is to lead his wife spiritually and be stronger then she is in the faith so that he may point her toward knowledge. As women we must learn submission. When we are married, we are to submit to our husbands and refrain from dominating. Ephesians 5:22 says,
“Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.”
However, God purposefully created men differently from women and women should be treated as such. This also means that before marriage we as young ladies should set our standards high for men. Ladies themselves determine how a guy will treat them. If young ladies set their standards high, men will treat them with respect, but if they do not, they will be treated however the man chooses. Colossians 3:18 says, “Wives submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord,” it also says, “Husbands love your wives and do not be embittered against them.” My husband must treat me with respect, not abusing his authority.
The relationship between a man and woman is sacred and worth protecting. In order to preserve this relationship, the man must be a Christian, must know how to love his wife, and must lead his wife in the faith so that together their love may grow stronger and more beautiful.